Energy Management in Social Transitions For The Neurodiverse & Chronically Ill

A client recently posed the question, "How can I effectively manage my energy while transitioning into an environment where I'll be meeting new people and juggling the demands of studying?"

In our conversation, we explored the analogy of "monitoring the gas tank." While we may have some idea of the energy studying requires, it can be challenging to predict which social activities might deplete your energy, especially when entering a new work or school environment. Establishing new relationships inherently demands more energy than maintaining existing ones, given the complexities of the "storming and norming" process— an unspoken journey to define the rules of engagement between individuals. This process of deciphering subtle social cues while simultaneously tracking and memorizing information is very demanding.

Essential to effective energy management for folks with ADHD, neurodiversity, and chronic health issues is extending kindness to yourself when your gas tank is depleted, acknowledging that it's not always within your immediate control and we can’t always plan for it. This is why I advocate focusing on what fills your "gas tank" and intentionally incorporating these activities into your routine when you know you have additional stressful factors like new social relations. This may include planning a day of rest, an entire day! It could be doing things like scheduling and practicing naps, engaging in meditation, ensuring three balanced meals, attending a yoga session, or any activity you know is beneficial for you. The key is granting yourself permission to engage in these nourishing activities and prioritizing them in your schedule.

By integrating filling-your-tank activities that replenish your energy, you not only safeguard your well-being but also enhance your ability to navigate social dynamics and academic challenges without the burden of guilt and negative self-talk. Striking this balance allows you to thrive, fostering a more fulfilling and sustainable approach to transitions that have involve developing new relationships.